Quit dating the church
We settled into our chairs, adjusted our microphones, and after catching up a bit more, we got down to business. * * * Boundless: Josh, what motivated you to write ? Joshua Harris: I had the experience when I was single, after getting out of the high school youth group, which was my whole world of church at the time and all my friends there, of really feeling disconnected from the church and not quite seeing how it fit into my life and my plans.There was a season of time where I was still involved in the church, but it was not my priority. I was essentially "dating the church" -- I use that phrase to describe the mindset that says, "I'm with the church, but I really treat her like a girlfriend, and sadly, often times, a neglected girlfriend." You know -- looking for something better and really not having that much passion or excitement about the relationship.And that actually facilitates the sense that I'm a consumer, and I'm coming to check you out, and if I like you I might stay, but if not, I might go find something else.
Tamsin Llwyd Graves | March 2012 - Highfields Book of the Month By Joshua Harris - (2004) Colorado Springs: Multnomah Books Initial confession - it was the small, attractive format of this book which first drew my attention -an A5 sized hardback with large and well spaced font.
When Joshua and Carolyn arrived, it was as though we were getting together with old friends.
In my case, they old friends, as I've known both for years.
" I just had lunch with a young woman who is interested in relocating to a particular church. So you would see more women who would be more committed to the church, and the men are missing in some cases?
And she was asking me if I should be concerned that there are no single men there? Carolyn Mc Culley: Well, it would appear to be that way.I remember being in New York City not too long ago, and a pastor I was speaking with said that people in this city go to churches like you and I go to restaurants. They drop in there because they like the worship or the teaching, whatever it might be, and there's not an understanding -- and this doesn't have anything to do with gender -- that the local church is a community, where you're living life together.